October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Years ago, I started a simple tradition: I made 31 small purple ribbons, attached each one to a safety pin, and wore one every day of the month. When I noticed someone who seemed to be having a hard day, I would sometimes offer them my ribbon. Often, that small gesture started a conversation.
You can make your own set of 31 ribbons with a few inexpensive supplies.
What you’ll need
- Purple ribbon, cut into 31 pieces about 6 to 8 inches long
- 31 safety pins
- Scissors
- A hot glue gun and glue sticks
- Cardboard to protect your work surface
Fold each piece into the familiar awareness ribbon shape, with a loop at the top and the ends crossing below it. Add a small dot of hot glue where the ribbon crosses, then let it cool. Glue a closed safety pin to the back, keeping the clasp free so the pin still works. Let the glue cool completely before wearing the ribbon.
Pin one to your shirt, jacket, vest, or bag each day in October. Keep the others ready to share.
Let the person choose
A sad expression does not tell us someone’s story. The kindest way to offer a ribbon is to leave room for them to say yes or no:
“I made these purple ribbons for Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Would you like one?”
If they accept, you can say:
“I’m with Riders Against Domestic Violence. If you or someone you know ever needs resources, you can find them at RADV.org.”
Sometimes they’ll thank you and move on. Sometimes they’ll want to talk. If they do, listen without pressing for details, especially where others might overhear. A ribbon may not be safe for everyone to wear or take home, so let them decide what feels right.
That little purple ribbon can open a door. It may help someone find information for themselves or a friend. It may simply remind them that someone cares. RADV is a bridge to resources, and people can visit RADV.org to find organizations equipped to help them directly.
This October, consider making 31 ribbons. Wear one. Offer one when the moment feels welcome. Let the other person choose what happens next.
One ribbon. One conversation. One more person who knows where to turn.
Riders Against Domestic Violence — We Are the Bridge
RADV.org | Bloom Beyond Bruises, an RADV initiative